Why You Should Stop Apologizing For Everything
In the aftermath of Juno, some meteorologists took to Twitter to say sorry for predicting a bigger, badder storm than what actually hit most of the Northeast. But they're not the only people who rush to apologize for things beyond their control.
In the aftermath of Juno, some meteorologists took to Twitter to say sorry for predicting a bigger, badder storm than what actually hit most of the Northeast (the did, in, fact get clobbered). One particularly prolific apologizer, Gary Szatkowski of the National Weather Service, tweeted repeatedly about his remorse, including: "My deepest apologies to many key decision makers and so many members of the general public."
Kate Bilo of CBS3 in Philly , and quipped in 57 characters: "This is about the part where I rendezvous with a sleeve of thin mints."
C'mon weather folks, stop beating yourself up! Nobody blames youâwell, some blame the politicians like of New York for listening to you. Mother nature is, after all, predictably . So why the rush to say, "I'm sorry" for things beyond our control?
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I know in the past week I've apologized for my train being late (like I was driving it), finding the water at the hair salon too hot (I'm so picky about second-degree burns), and being hit by the door someone else flung open (how dare I be in the way?). What gives?
"Women, in particular, over-apologize as a way to avoid conflict and to foster peace and harmony," says Aimee Cohen, author of Woman Up! Overcome the 7 Deadly Sins that Sabotage Your Success ($15, ). "We impulsively blurt out 'Iâm sorry' even when we havenât done anything wrong. Weâre taught to be well-mannered and learn early on that itâs not polite to make others feel uncomfortable."
While everyone appreciates a friend or partner who is able to shoulder some blame, you probably want to go easy on the "I screwed up's" at work. "Excessive apologizing is perceived as a sign of weakness, a lack of confidence and competence, and an inability to lead and make difficult decisions," notes Cohen, who is also a career coach. "Reserve your apologies for truly offensive behavior and egregious errors.â
And when a sincere mea culpaâlike this one from âis in order, it helps to know how to . The rest of the time? Make like Al Roker and admit nothing.